Montessori express: describe instead of criticising
Carlotta Cerri
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Fondatrice de La Tela
20 gennaio 2021·3 commenti
❌ You are always the same!
❌ You never pay attention!
❌ You are such a mess!
Imagine if someone criticised you in the same way you criticize your children… Would you like it? These sentences not only make them feel wrong, but they don't teach anything to anyone.
❌ You never pay attention!
❌ You are such a mess!
Imagine if someone criticised you in the same way you criticize your children… Would you like it? These sentences not only make them feel wrong, but they don't teach anything to anyone.
Instead, try this:
Instead of using the usual unpleasant sentences, try to describe.
✅ You spilled the water on the ground. What can we do?
✅ You got distracted while walking. Are you OK?
✅ You have stained your t-shirt again. Will you help me wash it?
Remember: Children have to learn the same thing in many different contexts, so if they get something wrong that you think they should already know, it means they are still learning it
✅ You spilled the water on the ground. What can we do?
✅ You got distracted while walking. Are you OK?
✅ You have stained your t-shirt again. Will you help me wash it?
Remember: Children have to learn the same thing in many different contexts, so if they get something wrong that you think they should already know, it means they are still learning it
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Carlotta Cerri
– Fondatrice de La Tela
Sono la fondatrice de La Tela, creatrice del podcast Educare con calma e dal 2019 viaggio a tempo pieno con la mia famiglia Alex, Oliver ed Emily. Mi ritengo una visionaria pessimista: so come voglio cambiare l’educazione e che genitore ho scelto di essere, ma la maggior parte dei giorni mi sembra di scalare pareti di vetro. Ma forse proprio per questo so come aiutarti quando mi scrivi: perché ci passo anche io per quel disagio e ti dico le verità scomode con gentilezza e senza giudizio.
