Montessori express: change the sentences into positive
When you want your children to respect a rule, try to avoid negative sentences.
Carlotta Cerri
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Fondatrice de La Tela
24 febbraio 2021·6 commenti
❌ Don't shout!
❌ Don't stand on the chair.
Often, when we say these senteces, in the child's mind the "don't" gets lost. When we want our children to respect a limit, or a rule, instead of using negative sentences, we can try to turn them to positive ones.
✅ Let's speak quietly.
✅ We sit on the chair.
It's not a magic wand, but it gives the child's brain a concrete action to do, which means they are more likely to do what we ask. It really works!
❌ Don't stand on the chair.
Often, when we say these senteces, in the child's mind the "don't" gets lost. When we want our children to respect a limit, or a rule, instead of using negative sentences, we can try to turn them to positive ones.
✅ Let's speak quietly.
✅ We sit on the chair.
It's not a magic wand, but it gives the child's brain a concrete action to do, which means they are more likely to do what we ask. It really works!
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Carlotta Cerri
– Fondatrice de La Tela
Sono la fondatrice de La Tela, creatrice del podcast Educare con calma e dal 2019 viaggio a tempo pieno con la mia famiglia Alex, Oliver ed Emily. Mi ritengo una visionaria pessimista: so come voglio cambiare l’educazione e che genitore ho scelto di essere, ma la maggior parte dei giorni mi sembra di scalare pareti di vetro. Ma forse proprio per questo so come aiutarti quando mi scrivi: perché ci passo anche io per quel disagio e ti dico le verità scomode con gentilezza e senza giudizio.
