Don't ask your children to share their toys
Carlotta Cerri
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Fondatrice de La Tela
27 luglio 2020·11 commenti
I noticed that parents who ask their los sto share you have two rules. If my child wants their kid’s toy, they ask their kid to give it. If their child wants my kid’s toy, they tell their child not to take it, “it’s the child’s”.
Their child never wins.
Sharing is a beautiful concept, but it’s vague, it has no clear rules: we don’t ask our kids to share, we know they‘ll do it when they are ready.
Instead, we invite them to wait when somebody has a toy they want: this promotes patience. We tell them they don’t need to share their toy, if they don’t want to: this prevents them for feeling possessive and defensive about their own things.
This way, they learnt to share because they want to, not because they have to.
Their child never wins.
Sharing is a beautiful concept, but it’s vague, it has no clear rules: we don’t ask our kids to share, we know they‘ll do it when they are ready.
Instead, we invite them to wait when somebody has a toy they want: this promotes patience. We tell them they don’t need to share their toy, if they don’t want to: this prevents them for feeling possessive and defensive about their own things.
This way, they learnt to share because they want to, not because they have to.
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Carlotta Cerri
– Fondatrice de La Tela
Sono la fondatrice de La Tela, creatrice del podcast Educare con calma e dal 2019 viaggio a tempo pieno con la mia famiglia Alex, Oliver ed Emily. Mi ritengo una visionaria pessimista: so come voglio cambiare l’educazione e che genitore ho scelto di essere, ma la maggior parte dei giorni mi sembra di scalare pareti di vetro. Ma forse proprio per questo so come aiutarti quando mi scrivi: perché ci passo anche io per quel disagio e ti dico le verità scomode con gentilezza e senza giudizio.